25.6.07



SALT LAKE CITY, Utah (AP) -- An inmate stole the gun from a corrections officer and shot him to death Monday when the prisoner was unshackled for a doctor's appointment, authorities said.
Curtis Allgier fled the University of Utah medical center on foot, carjacked a Ford Explorer and was captured miles away at an Arby's restaurant after a high-speed chase.







So how far did this guy think he was going to get? I think he would find it ulitmately difficult to go incognito.

6.6.07

What The World Eats

A Time Magazine photo essay. It's really fascinating. Take a look. Tell me who you most closely resemble.

Visual DNA

I got this from Ann

3.6.07

Take a whiff

ATTENTION LURKERS: I know you have favorite smells. Everyone does..... Delurk already.



Having just taken a big breath of hot rain, I got to thinking about my favorite smells. What are your top 5?

5) Summer thunderstorm
Not very original.
4) Starbucks bathroom soap
Seriously. That stuff smells great.
3) Jasmine.
The actual flowers, not pseudoscent. They remind me of India. They were incorporated into womens' braids and garlands. It's a bonus if they happen to be mixed with the smell of street vendors' cooking. As you can imagine, that doesn't happen too often.
2)Wood-fire
There is something very nostalgic about it. I suppose because I grew up with a wood stove in the basement.
1) Breastmilk breath. There is not a sweeter smell on earth than baby's breath au booby-milk. I heard someone describe it as "applesauce breath". That's pretty close, but I think it's really indescribable.

Coincidence?

Top 10 Most Peaceful Countries:

1 Norway
2 New Zealand
3 Denmark
4 Ireland
5 Japan
6 Finland
7 Sweden
8 Canada
9 Portugal
10 Austria

(We're number 96 by the way)

FULL LIST

19 countries have banned spanking. They are:

Finland
Norway
Austria
Cyprus
Italy
Croatia
Latvia
United Kingdom
Denmark
Israel
Germany
Greece
Portugal
Sweden
Bulgaria
Iceland
Romania
Ukraine
Hungary


Canada,Switzerland,and Belgium have limited bans that depend on a child's age.

The top ten peaceful countries are:

*Norway
New Zealand
*Denmark
Ireland
Japan
*Finland
*Sweden
*Canada
*Portugal
*Austria

2.6.07

You make every day special, just by being you.

From Mental Floss Magazine

15 Reasons Mister Rogers Was the Best Neighbor Ever
Back when I was in 7th grade I stood up in front of my English class and delivered a tongue-in-cheek, poorly researched presentation on why I thought Mister Rogers should be the next President. I ate up the first few minutes zipping up my cardigan, and putting on some sneakers, and then I proceeded to mock him roundly. It was a riotous success. Fourteen years later, I’m using this post to repent. The following are 15 things everyone should know about Fred Rogers:

1. Even Koko the Gorilla loved him
Most people have heard of Koko, the Stanford-educated gorilla who could speak about 1000 words in American Sign Language, and understand about 2000 in English. What most people don’t know, however, is that Koko was an avid Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood fan. As Esquire reported, when Fred Rogers took a trip out to meet Koko for his show, not only did she immediately wrap her arms around him and embrace him, she did what she’d always seen him do onscreen: she proceeded to take his shoes off!

2. He Made Thieves Think Twice
According to a TV Guide piece on him, Fred Rogers drove a plain old Impala for years. One day, however, the car was stolen from the street near the TV station. When Rogers filed a police report, the story was picked up by every newspaper, radio and media outlet around town. Amazingly, within 48 hours the car was left in the exact spot where it was taken from, with an apology on the dashboard. It read, “If we’d known it was yours, we never would have taken it.”

3. He Watched His Figure to the Pound!
In covering Rogers’ daily routine (waking up at 5; praying for a few hours for all of his friends and family; studying; writing, making calls and reaching out to every fan who took the time to write him; going for a morning swim; getting on a scale; then really starting his day), writer Tom Junod explained that Mr. Rogers weighed in at exactly 143 pounds every day for the last 30 years of his life. He didn’t smoke, didn’t drink, didn’t eat the flesh of any animals, and was extremely disciplined in his daily routine. And while I’m not sure if any of that was because he’d mostly grown up a chubby, single child, Junod points out that Rogers found beauty in the number 143. According to the piece, Rogers came “to see that number as a gift… because, as he says, “the number 143 means ‘I love you.’ It takes one letter to say ‘I’ and four letters to say ‘love’ and three letters to say ‘you.’ One hundred and forty-three.”

4. He Saved Both Public Television and the VCR
Strange but true. When the government wanted to cut Public Television funds in 1969, the relatively unknown Mister Rogers went to Washington. Almost straight out of a Capra film, his 5-6 minute testimony on how TV had the potential to give kids hope and create more productive citizens was so simple but passionate that even the most gruff politicians were charmed. While the budget should have been cut, the funding instead jumped from $9 to $22 million. Rogers also spoke to Congress, and swayed senators into voting to allow VCR’s to record television shows from the home. It was a cantankerous debate at the time, but his argument was that recording a program like his allowed working parents to sit down with their children and watch shows as a family.

5. He Might Have Been the Most Tolerant American Ever
Mister Rogers seems to have been almost exactly the same off-screen as he was onscreen. Despite being an ordained Presbyterian minister, and a man of tremendous faith, Mister Rogers preached tolerance first. Whenever he was asked to castigate non-Christians or gays for their differing beliefs, he would instead face them and say, with sincerity, “God loves you just the way you are.” Often this provoked ire from fundamentalists.

6. He Was Genuinely Curious about Others
Mister Rogers was known as one of the toughest interviews because he’d often befriend reporters, asking them tons of questions, taking pictures of them, compiling an album for them at the end of their time together, and calling them after to check in on them and hear about their families. He wasn’t concerned with himself, and genuinely loved hearing the life stories of others. Amazingly, it wasn’t just with reporters. Once, on a fancy trip up to a PBS exec’s house, he heard the limo driver was going to wait outside for 2 hours, so he insisted the driver come in and join them (which flustered the host). On the way back, Rogers sat up front, and when he learned that they were passing the driver’s home on the way, he asked if they could stop in to meet his family. According to the driver, it was one of the best nights of his life—the house supposedly lit up when Rogers arrived, and he played jazz piano and bantered with them late into the night. Further, like with the reporters, Rogers sent him notes and kept in touch with the driver for the rest of his life.

7. He was Color-blind
Literally. He couldn’t see the color blue. Of course, he was also figuratively color-blind, as you probably guessed. As were his parents who took in a black foster child when Rogers was growing up.

8. He Could Make a Subway Car full of Strangers Sing
Once while rushing to a New York meeting, there were no cabs available, so Rogers and one of his colleagues hopped on the subway. Esquire reported that the car was filled with people, and they assumed they wouldn’t be noticed. But when the crowd spotted Rogers, they all simultaneously burst into song, chanting “It’s a wonderful day in the neighborhood.” The result made Rogers smile wide.

A few other things:
9. He got into TV because he hated TV. The first time he turned one on, he saw people angrily throwing pies in each other’s faces. He immediately vowed to use the medium for better than that. Over the years he covered topics as varied as why kids shouldn’t be scared of a haircut, or the bathroom drain (because you won’t fit!), to divorce and war.
10. He was an Ivy League Dropout. Rogers moved from Dartmouth to Rollins College to pursue his studies in music.
11. He composed all the songs on the show, and over 200 tunes.
12. He was a perfectionist, and disliked ad libbing. He felt he owed it to children to make sure every word on his show was thought out.
13. Michael Keaton got his start on the show as an assistant– helping puppeteer and operate the trolley.
14. Several characters on the show are named for his family. Queen Sara is named after Rogers’ wife, and the postman Mr. McFeely is named for his maternal grandfather who always talked to him like an adult, and reminded young Fred that he made every day special just by being himself. Sound familiar? It was the same way Mister Rogers closed every show.
15. The sweaters. Every one of the cardigans he wore on the show had been hand-knit by his mother.

you did it!

I've been thinking a lot about praise being the flipside of punishment. I know I've mentioned before that we don't punish. Perhaps I'll post a detailed reasoning sometime. But for now I'm thinking about praise. We try not to praise. Sounds weird, huh? We don't believe in using emotional manipulation, which is one of the reasons we don't punish. We don't use rewards, praise, or punishment to elicit behavior.

As a matter of clarification, I will say to Violet that I really like it when she does such and such. It is an honest statement of appreciation, or a celebration of her accomplishment. What we don't do is use praise as a way to elicit "desired behavior". In other words, we don't use our approval or disapproval of her as a parenting tool. The occasional "good girl" pops out. Which makes me cringe. She's a "good girl" whether she's doing what I want or not.

I met a little girl once who was a praise junkie. She would constantly tell you about her accomplisments, vying desperately for your praise. She had zero self-satisfaction and could only really feel good about what she had done if someone else placed their value judgement on it. When you give kids a "good boy/girl" every time they sneeze, how are they to develop a real sense of accomplisment?

You see this at the park. Wow, you're such a good slider! It's gravity, people. If the child had been previously nervous about sliding and conquered that fear, you could acknowledge that. Like, "Jane, you decided to slide. I'll bet you feel good about that!" Allowing the child to revel in what THEY accomplished, rather than being limited to what YOU think of what they did.

It is my desire that my children learn to do what is right for the right reasons. Not because someone may approve or disapprove, or because they'll be punished if they don't. I want them to pursue what interests them with no concern for what others may think of it. It's a complicated and difficult road to navigate, but I'm feeling my way along.

All this to say Violet has started saying "YOU DID IT!" everytime she finishes something she set out to do.

31.5.07

boo hoo

Conor is going off to tech school this summer. Anybody wanna come visit, say July through October?

30.5.07

On Guatanamo

ROMNEY: I am glad [detainees] are at Guantanamo. I don’t want them on our soil. I want them on Guantanamo, where they don’t get the access to lawyers they get when they’re on our soil. I don’t want them in our prisons, I want them there. Some people have said we ought to close Guantanamo. My view is we ought to double Guantanamo.

Let's start scrounging up some more Arabs then. We've got work to do!

GIULIANI: In the hypothetical that you gave me, which assumes that we know there is going to be another attack and these people know about it, I would tell the people who had to do the interrogation to use every method they can think of. Shouldn’t be torture, but every method they can think of.

Like an Irish Jig? What are you implying exactly?

MCCAIN: R-Ariz., agreed that the U.S. should ensure that no prisoner at Guantanamo is subjected to torture. But, he said, closing the prison is premature without a legal resolution to the prisoners’ cases.“I don’t think they deserve a fair jury trial, but there should be some sort of adjudication” to decide whether detainees are held for life, executed or released rather than held indefinitely, McCain said.

Not a fair trial? What kind should it be?

CLINTON: “Guantanamo has become associated in the eyes of the world with a discredited administration policy of abuse, secrecy, and contempt for the rule of law. Rather than keeping us more secure, keeping Guantanamo open is harming our national interests. It compromises our long term military and strategic interests, and it impairs our standing overseas. I have certainly concluded that we should address any security issues on what to do with the remaining detainees, and then close it once and for all,” said Senator Clinton.

Well. Color me impressed.

OBAMA: “We need to bring to a close this sad chapter in American history, and begin a chapter that passes the might of our military to the freedom of our diplomacy and the power of our alliances. And while we are at it, we can close down Guantanamo and we can restore habeas corpus and we can lead with our ideas and our values.”-Barack Obama, Richmond, VA, May 8th

Does this man always speak in poetry? I heart him ever so much.

On the heels of another suicide

In the proverbial nutshell

1) Kids play in garage
2) Dog pees in garage
3) Baby crawls through pee in garage
4) Baby is stripped, sanitized, and placed on the floor
5) Baby makes it to the fifth stair before Mother notices he's missing
6) Mother returns with Baby to discover Toddler has dumped tupperware full of itsy teeny weeny ponytail holders on the floor
7) Mother re-deposits Baby on the floor, and picks up 700 itsy teeny weeny ponytail holders.
8) Mother turns around to notice Baby is missing
9) Mother collapses at the bottom of the stairs as Baby looks down from the top landing.



pictures from a previous accompanied trip up the stairs

24.5.07

Let them cry.

We have no TV. Well we have a TV, but we don't "get" tv. Get it? The satellite man (which sounds more exciting than it is) came to the door today. He wanted to offer us a cheaper option than cable. I stood there with Finnegan (who is currently known as "electric boogaloo") on my hip and told him we didn't have cable. He stood there for a second. "You don't have ANYTHING?" Nope. "Not even with the little one?" I was nice. But seriously. He's ten months old.

Now I'm not going to pretend that we don't watch movies around here. In fact, Violet has a pretty nasty addiction we're attempting to conquer. And by addiction, I mean if she gets hurt, or is generally upset, rather than crying and dealing with her emotions, she wants a movie. So we're working on getting her crying. Sounds kind of strange, I know. But it's what she needs. Don't worry, I'm not pinching her or anything to get her started.

It's just based on the general idea that if you have an emotional upset that you don't deal with (by releasing those emotions through crying or raging) those emotions don't go away. I think people often have this idea that kids have it easy. That crying is a manipulation. That they're not really feeling the emotions they obviously are. Kids feel things intensely. More intensely than you or I. They don't conjure up tears to get what they want. They genuinely feel hurt, confused, disappointed. Any number of things.

We tend to see the emotions of children as pretty one-dimensional. If a child is hurt or frightened and really letting loose, I hear people all the time say things like "Oh, he's MAD!" No he isn't. He's hurt. If you fell down and hit your head and were crying, and I said "Man, you're MAD!", wouldn't you feel a little insulted. Either that, or the pull the old "Oh, you're OK!" No. No, I'm not. I'm hurt. Dumbass. But by cajoling them into ignoring those feelings, we're doing them no favors.

I once saw a little girl trip and fall into a cement drainage ditch. She was holding a pail, and fell with her throat on the pail. Her mother scooped her up. She was terrified, had the wind knocked out of her, and then started making a noise I'll never forget. It sounded a little like a seal barking. So the neighbor starts talking about her fricking shoes. "OOOHHH. I like your shoes. Look how pretty your shoes are!" I wanted to take the shoe and stick it in her mouth. Just ignore your feelings! They'll go away.
Now, don't for a minute think I'm advocating "crying it out" in the sense that you put a baby in a cage in a dark room and teach them to have a really really healthy relationship with sleep and darkness by screaming themselves to sleep. Or say, hey if you want to cry, cry, I'm leaving. I'm talking about holding a crying child and helping them release pent up emotions.


I've found a little bit of freedom in the ideas that kids need to cry, just like adults. It does two things. I realize that 1) It is not my fault that she is crying. I have not failed as a parent, because my child is upset. and 2) I don't have to fix it. I hold her. I tell her it's ok to cry when she needs to. I had found myself getting angry when Violet would get upset. This has really changed that. I help her sort through her emotions. I'm patient. I hold her or sit with her. She gets her "sads out". And we go on with our day. Rather than trying to do a song and dance all day while nothing makes her happy, the mood has passed, and been dealt with.

The Flipside of the Gardasil Push

Judicial Watch Uncovers Three Deaths Relating to HPV Vaccine Event Reports Obtained from FDA Detail 1,637 Adverse Reactions to Gardasil
(Washington, DC) -- Judicial Watch, the public interest group that investigates and prosecutes government corruption, today released documents obtained from the U.S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA) under the provisions of the Freedom of Information Act, detailing 1,637 reports of adverse reactions to the vaccination for human papillomavirus (HPV), Gardasil. Three deaths were related to the vaccine. One physician’s assistant reported that a female patient “died of a blood clot three hours after getting the Gardasil vaccine.” Two other reports, on girls 12 and 19, reported deaths relating to heart problems and/or blood clotting.
As of May 11, 2007, the 1,637 adverse vaccination reactions reported to the FDA via the Vaccine Adverse Event Reporting System (VAERS) included 371 serious reactions. Of the 42 women who received the vaccine while pregnant, 18 experienced side effects ranging from spontaneous abortion to fetal abnormities.
Side effects published by Merck & Co. warn the public about potential pain, fever, nausea, dizziness and itching after receiving the vaccine. Indeed, 77% of the adverse reactions reported are typical side effects to vaccinations. But other more serious side effects reported include paralysis, Bells Palsy, Guillain-Barre Syndrome, and seizures.
“The FDA adverse event reports on the HPV vaccine read like a catalog of horrors,” stated Judicial Watch President Tom Fitton. “Any state or local government now beset by Merck’s lobbying campaigns to mandate this HPV vaccine for young girls ought to take a look at these adverse health reports. It looks as if an unproven vaccine with dangerous side effects is being pushed as a miracle drug.”
Judicial Watch filed its request on May 9, 2007, and received the adverse event reports from the FDA on May 15, 2007. Judicial Watch has posted the adverse event reports below.
(A recent study, published in the New England Journal of Medicine, also questioned the general effectiveness of Gardasil.)

...but that weed....that'll kill ya!

Visit the website for the reports

22.5.07

Gay Adoption

LONDON (AFP) - A pair of gay flamingos have adopted an abandoned chick, becoming parents after being together for six years, a British conservation organisation said Monday.

We're being less progressive than birds.

20.5.07

Belief-O-Matic

1. Liberal Quakers (100%)
2. Unitarian Universalism (99%)
3. Mahayana Buddhism (92%)
4. Neo-Pagan (89%)
5. New Age (84%)
6. Theravada Buddhism (84%)
7. Reform Judaism (82%)
8. Jainism (82%)
9. Mainline to Liberal Christian Protestants (79%)
10. Secular Humanism (75%)
11. Bahá'í Faith (72%)
12. Taoism (70%)
13. Sikhism (68%)
14. Hinduism (62%)
15. Orthodox Quaker (61%)
16. New Thought (56%)
17. Scientology (54%)
18. Orthodox Judaism (53%)
19. Islam (49%)
20. Nontheist (47%)
21. Christian Science (Church of Christ, Scientist) (39%)
22. Seventh Day Adventist (30%)
23. Mainline to Conservative Christian/Protestant (29%)
24. Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints (Mormons) (27%)
25. Eastern Orthodox (20%)
26. Roman Catholic (20%)
27. Jehovah's Witness (15%)


I always get the Quakers. I took this years ago, still the Quakers. I don't think I'd be into the silent church thing though.... We probably will start going to the UU church when Conor gets back from Tech School. The closest Friends church is in Downers Grove. I found, while taking the quiz, that it was honestly difficult me to divorce myself from what I was taught to believe, or what I'm "supposed" to believe, and answer the questions with what I actually believe. As hokey as the idea of taking a religion quiz is, it actually raised some interesting issues for me. Like the fact that I have the right to decide what I believe, sans an instruction manual or esteemed clergy to tell me what's allowed. Honestly, the idea that there may be no book out there with the answers is still terrifying, but rather liberating for me. Try it out. Let me know what you get. I'd be really interested to see. Just try to answer the questions honestly, with no residual childhood guilt.

Belief-O-Matic











17.5.07

it's a hate-stravaganza!








who, exactly fits into their dogma?

16.5.07

Remembering the Legacy of Rev. Falwell

“I listen to feminists and all these radical gals… These women just need a man in the house. That’s all they need. Most of the feminists need a man to tell them what time of day it is and to lead them home. And they blew it and they’re mad at all men. Feminists hate men. They’re sexist. They hate men; that’s their problem."--Jerry Falwell

If you're not a born-again Christian, you're a failure as a human being.-- Rev Jerry Falwell

AIDS is not just God's punishment for homosexuals; it is God's punishment for the society that tolerates homosexuals.-- Jerry Falwell

"I really believe that the pagans, and the abortionists, and the feminists, and the gays and the lesbians who are actively trying to make that an alternative lifestyle, the ACLU, People For the American Way, all of them who have tried to secularize America. I point the finger in their face and say 'you helped this happen.'"Jerry Falwell 9/12/2001

"If Chief Justice Warren and his associates had known God’s word and had desired to do the Lord’s will, I am quite confident that the 1954 decision [Brown v. Board of Education] would never have been made…. The facilities should be separate. When God has drawn a line of distinction, we should not attempt to cross that line."

The idea that religion and politics don't mix was invented by the Devil to keep Christians from running their own country.-- Rev Jerry Falwell, Sermon, July 4, 1976

“[homosexuals are] brute beasts...part of a vile and satanic system [that] will be utterly annihilated, and there will be a celebration in heaven.”

"[Vice President Gore] recently praised the lesbian actress who plays 'Ellen' on ABC Television...I believe he may even put children, young people, and adults in danger by his public endorsement of deviant homosexual behavior...Our elected leaders are attempting to glorify and legitimize perversion." People for the American Way, "Hostile Climate", 1998, p.9

The ACLU is to Christians what the American Nazi party is to Jews.-- Rev Jerry Falwell

Labor unions should study and read the Bible instead of asking for more money. When people get right with God, they are better workers.

I hope I live to see the day when, as in the early days of our country, we won't have any public schools. The churches will have taken them over again and Christians will be running them.

"The Anti-Christ is a Jewish male alive in the world today."Jerry Falwell


It appears that America's anti-Biblical feminist movement is at last dying, thank God, and is possibly being replaced by a Christ-centered men's movement which may become the foundation for a desperately needed national spiritual awakening.

Textbooks are Soviet propaganda.

Billy Graham is the chief servant of Satan in America.

Christians, like slaves and soldiers, ask no questions.

"Someone must not be afraid to say, 'moral perversion is wrong.' If we do not act now, homosexuals will 'own' America!...If you and I do not speak up now, this homosexual steamroller will literally crush all decent men, women, and children who get in its way...and our nation will pay a terrible price!"--Jerry Falwell quoted in People for the American Way's, "Hostile Climate,"

I am such a strong admirer and supporter of George W. Bush that if he suggested eliminating the income tax or doubling it, I would vote yes on first blush.

14.5.07

Meme

I was tagged by Purgatory Lory and Punk Rock Ladybug. One for 8 random things, and one for 7. So here are my 15 things. Conor would be so proud of my math!

1) I find removing body hair to be a completely ludicrous tradition. But I do it anyway.

2) If I could have one superpower from the Heroes crowd, it would be the ability to acquire and retain information, a la that chick from the diner that got her head chopped open.

3) I find doing things in order to not disrupt the status quo, or because you'd just "rather not know" to be the most deplorable qualities.

4) I recently learned about a practice called Christian Domestic Discipline, which entails physical discipline of the wife by the husband. Consensually. I'm not sure how I feel about it on the level that, an adult woman should be able to do what she wishes with her body, but I find it repulsive.
5) My favorite artist is May Ann Licudine.

6) Conor and I are getting matchy matchy tattoos. Aren't we special?

7) I swear Finnegan was trying to say "button" yesterday.

8) I have the uncontrollable urge to suggest parenting books to people, even though I realize that people don't get as thrilled about them as I do.

9) Wife beaters are sexy. SEXY I SAY! (the shirts...not the christian domestic discipline crowd)

10) So is chest hair, dammit!

11) However, gold chains resting in a nest of chest hair tufting from a wife beater are NOT.

12) I like visiting bizarre websites. (CDD, for example) I also like to look at families advertising for "sister wives", and read about feral children.

13) While I was writing this, Finn was playing in the toilet.

14) Since getting married and having kids, I think about death almost everyday.

15) Have you ever seen that montage from America's Funniest Home Videos of men changing diapers and falling all over themselves gagging? I didn't find it funny at all. It made me want to punch them in the face.

ow. the tiny fingernails.


11.5.07

happy birfday to me!


I have now retired my free hp camera! I'll be sending to Kiva. Kiva is a microfinance group that allows anyone to make small ($25 min) LOANS (not donations) to entrepreneurs in developing countries. If you've got an old digital camera sitting around, send it on to Kiva.

8.5.07

general help

Africa is not a country. Thank you for your time.

1.5.07

don't check my internet history

finnegan decided to visit some websites today.

Immigration Day

Try out the citizenship test: I got 11 out of 10 right. I have no idea how that is possible....I must be THAT good.

Naturalization Test

In the spirit of the festivities, let us also celebrate the crazies:

In order for Satan to establish his 'New World Order' and destroy the freedom of all people as predicted in the Scriptures, he must first destroy the U.S. The mostly quiet and unspectacular invasion of illegal immigrants does not focus the attention of the nations the way open warfare does, but is all the more insidious for its stealth and innocuousness. - From a resolution sponsored by Don Larsen, Utah District 65's GOP chairman.

25.4.07

10% off at pottery barn

Every once in a great while I start to care what kind of furniture I have, what I wear, how cute my kids' clothes are. I start to want, want, want. It is so easy to get wrapped up in stuff. It's the symptom of a lazy brain. Then I remember that I think it's funny that Violet will eat with a fork until you say "Hey! You're using your fork!" Then she puts it down and goes back to eating with her fingers. Who cares? Will she be eating with her hands when she's 15? Doubtful. Last time I had a pedicure? I think I was pregnant with Violet. Explain to me why either one of those things is important. I've let my mind wander toward normalcy. Whatever that may be. It seems that normalcy these days is working 8 hours at a job you either hate or can do half-conscious, spending 3 in front of the TV, off to sleep, and do it over. Every once in awhile you have sex with someone you love, or don't for that matter. How often do you make a human connection? That can wait until after Dancing With The Stars. Fuck normal. I don't use that word often. Especially not in writing. But someone save me from caring about what other people think. I don't want the hassle of normal. I want real live life. Nasty, dirty, gloriously resplendent life. My life need some pruning shears. And a wheelbarrow.


Little boxes on the hillside,
Little boxes made of ticky tacky
Little boxes on the hillside,
Little boxes all the same,
There's a green one and a pink one
And a blue one and a yellow one
And they're all made out of ticky tacky
And they all look just the same

And the people in the houses
All went to the university
Where they were put in boxes
And they came out all the same
And there's doctors and lawyers
And business executives
And they're all made out of ticky tacky
And they all look just the same.

And they all play on the golf course
And drink their martinis dry
And they all have pretty children
And the children go to school,
And the children go to summer camp
And then to the university
Where they are put in boxes
And they come out all the same

And the boys go into business
And marry and raise a family
In boxes made of ticky tacky
And they all look just the same,
There's a pink one and a green one
And a blue one and a yellow one
And they're all made out of ticky tacky
And they all look just the same.

Words and music by Malvina Reynolds.Copyright 1962, Schroder Music Company



I am well aware this post was incoherent, disjointed, and probably made no sense to anyone but me. Night night.

skj

22.4.07

On military spousehood

Being a military wife can seriously suck. Conor hasn't even deployed yet and it can still suck. But I married into it. Deliberately. There are no "Air Force Wife, Hardest Job in the Military" stickers on my car. I will throw in the obligatory YES, I support the troops. That should be obvious. But I am continually sickened by the self-congratulatory attitude of service members and their wives. It is a service. We volunteered. Please stop falling all over yourselves for your own choices. I feel like it's the same sort of bandwagon the sports junkies jump on. Everyone wants to be part of a superior group. They want to belong. I don't think that our military shouldn't be recognized for their achievements by the people they serve to protect. I think they should be recognized like any other group, like police officers or firefighters. But the key words are "the people they serve." Not themselves. It's the "tooting your own horn" that I object to. Some families truly face adversity in the military. They face the uncertainty of a loved one going off to war. I recognize them for their sacrifice. I'm not going to ask anyone to recognize me for sending my husband off to sit at a bank of computers for 12 hours. There is a big difference. An incomparable difference. And trying to jump on that bandwagon lessens the enormity of the sacrifices some families make.

19.4.07

Phelps hate group to picket VA Tech funerals. Is there no shame? I'm sure I have nothing new to say about the Phelps clan, so I'll just leave it at that.

Have a listen to "Westboro Baptist Church" by I Can Lick Any Sonofabitch In The House. It's a little ... um ... rough, for my more sensitive readers.

Crisis in Darfur


The US Holocaust Memorial Museum has partnered with Google Earth to depict the ongoing crisis in Sudan. If you haven't already, I suggest you search "Darfur, Sudan" in your Google Earth (I had to update mine).

17.4.07

a fat rant



watch it. seriously.

there are some people in my life for whom weight seems to be the be all end all. for whom the question "how's she doing" equates to "still fat?". two babies in a five foot frame make for a belly that looks like a cross between a deflated beach ball and a topographical map. and no matter how much i weigh, that's not going to change. i'm by no means saying that the pregnancy ice cream didn't help, but my body nourished some little people and took a beating in the process. and while we're at it, could someone do a short rant? we need clothes too.

14.4.07

woohoo for boobies

Conor called me on his half from the buck and told me that his ASM was nursing her baby in the cafe. He said "I was like, woohoo!" I had to make sure he didn't actually SAY woohoo, because to a woman with an exposed breast, that could be taken the wrong way.

1.4.07

goodbye fluff, hello meaty goodness

I do a lot of reading and a lot of research. Little I do is based on ignorance. Stupidity, sure. Ignorance, never. I've been squelching myself for fear of stepping on toes and offending. That is new territory for me. Any of you who know me know that. I have learned, however, that I can have an opinion, I can share it. I can believe I'm right. I can say that I think it is a violation of human rights to cut the genitals of unconsenting baby boys. That it is wrong wrong wrong. I can say that I have persevered through many setbacks to nursing my children, and that it is the best thing I could have done. I understand the setbacks of nicu stays, of low supply, of babies with reflux, and it can be done! I can say that my children remain unvaccinated. I can say these things without telling others that they are bad parents for doing differently, even if I believe they are wrong. If I don't try to disseminate the information, I'm party to the problem. It is a fine line I'm learning to walk. I have learned that pacifiers are not the devil. That to a little boy, with an established breastfeeding relationship, and a nasty case of reflux, it can be a godsend. I can say, YES, I'll be nursing him as a toddler, just like the rest of the world. And no, it is not abusive, and NO IT WILL NOT MAKE HIM GAY. Seems to me, it would make him a boob man, but go figure. I've been getting a little tired of the fluff, and these are the things I'm interested in. NO to time-outs and spanking (we've made it to 2 1/2 with no punishment!!!), lactivism, intactivism, natural healing, consensual living, babywearing, securely attached children. It is time to write about what I believe, and this is it.

skj

Extended Breastfeeding

"Evidence suggests more women are breast-feeding their children until they're toddlers and older -- and they're not just earth-mother stereotypes"

Boston Globe Article.


I nursed Violet until she was 17 months. She weened during my pregnancy with Finn out of sheer lack of milk. It just wouldn't stick around with all those pregnancy hormones interfering. I've had some problems with supply, hence my pancake post. I truly truly hope to make it to a minimum of 2 with Finn without losing my milk. It's already looking down, and that makes me a little crazy. Once we get moved in and settled, I'm doing everything I can to bump up supply. I'll be buying stock in oatmeal and fenugreek crops. My doctor, as much as I love him, made the comment that Finn had the 6 months of exclusive nursing, and anything else would just be gravy. I don't really understand why that would be the case, as if human milk magically loses it's immunological and nutritional properties. Like my boobies have turned into pumpkins at six months postpartum. I think he was just trying to prepare me for the possibility that my milk wouldn't bump back up. I'm digging my heals in, but with a commitment that I will do what is best for Finn. I will not refuse to supplement if that is what is necessary for him to gain weight properly, but I will do my damndest to try to make sure it won't be necessary.

skj
 

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