1.4.07

goodbye fluff, hello meaty goodness

I do a lot of reading and a lot of research. Little I do is based on ignorance. Stupidity, sure. Ignorance, never. I've been squelching myself for fear of stepping on toes and offending. That is new territory for me. Any of you who know me know that. I have learned, however, that I can have an opinion, I can share it. I can believe I'm right. I can say that I think it is a violation of human rights to cut the genitals of unconsenting baby boys. That it is wrong wrong wrong. I can say that I have persevered through many setbacks to nursing my children, and that it is the best thing I could have done. I understand the setbacks of nicu stays, of low supply, of babies with reflux, and it can be done! I can say that my children remain unvaccinated. I can say these things without telling others that they are bad parents for doing differently, even if I believe they are wrong. If I don't try to disseminate the information, I'm party to the problem. It is a fine line I'm learning to walk. I have learned that pacifiers are not the devil. That to a little boy, with an established breastfeeding relationship, and a nasty case of reflux, it can be a godsend. I can say, YES, I'll be nursing him as a toddler, just like the rest of the world. And no, it is not abusive, and NO IT WILL NOT MAKE HIM GAY. Seems to me, it would make him a boob man, but go figure. I've been getting a little tired of the fluff, and these are the things I'm interested in. NO to time-outs and spanking (we've made it to 2 1/2 with no punishment!!!), lactivism, intactivism, natural healing, consensual living, babywearing, securely attached children. It is time to write about what I believe, and this is it.

skj

3 rubber neckers:

ChiroMum said...

I look forward to more of these types of posts from you, Sarah. Somehow, I feel with your new community, you are going to feel even more empowered to say/post on these somewhat taboo subjects than you did while living here in the Bible Belt. And that's a good thing!

amy said...

and good for you! this is who you are and there should be no hiding that. i think it's great that you have a "foundation" for yourself. i consider myself a pretty scattered, "go with the flow" kind of girl and that's been alright with me thus far. however, the older i get, the more opinions i'm starting to develop.

sweetviolet said...

chiro - you're so right! i feel better already just knowing i'm not a lone wolf.

amy- it's been quite a journey discovering what i believe. being around other parents is a great way to learn both what to do, and what not to do.

 

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