McDonald's strip search hoax

You've all probably heard about the young woman at McDonald's who was strip searched, sodomized, forced to masturbate, and forced to perform oral sex on a man in a strange phone hoax. If not here's a link. I watched the victim on 20/20 tonight. While keeping in mind that I in NO WAY blame this young lady for the horrible things that happened to her, I found one thing she said to be very telling. The interviewer asked her why she submitted to the abuse when she could have run (though completely naked) from the office. Her answer was this.

"My parents taught me that when an adult tells you to do something, you do it. When you get your hand slapped, you listen."

It made me think of Violet's speech therapist when we lived in SC. She would pull Violet onto her lap without any sign of an invitation from Violet. That's NOT how she rolls! When Violet would struggle to get away, she would hold onto her, trying to cajole her into staying. I would simply take Violet by the hand and pull her out of the therapist's lap.

For me, it's as simple as this: If you teach your children that adults (ANY adult) are allowed to touch them without their permission, how can you ever expect them to be able to know when it isn't OK for an adult to touch them?

For me, it extends much further. Teach children to question authority. Even their parents.