20.2.08

Rather Timely

If ever I needed to read this, it is now. I've declared my new job title "psychiatric orderly". I am, on occasion, losing sight of the bigger picture.


THE DAILY GROOVE ~ by Scott Noelle
www.enjoyparenting.com/dailygroove

:: A Human Becoming ::

In a product-oriented culture, there's a tendency to"productize" and "package" people. We often forget that a human being is a living process -- a "human becoming."
Children are especially dynamic -- often visibly different from one day to the next -- and no two children develop precisely the same way. This can be a challenge for us when we've been conditioned to "need"the predictability (read: controllability) of static products.
Many parent-child struggles can be avoided simply by allowing children to be different than they were the previous day, or even the previous minute! A toddler may "hate" peas at the beginning of the meal and"love" them by the end of the meal, provided the parent doesn't pronounce the child a pea-hater in the interim.
Today, be mindful of the way you talk about your child. Note that *labels* tend to productize. You can avoid labels by focusing on the process. For example,"he's a fussy eater" becomes "he's figuring out his tastes."
Especially avoid "always" and "never" statements like "she *never* brushes her teeth willingly. "Someday she will. :-)

http://dailygroove.net/human-becoming
Feel free to forward this message to your friends!(Please include this paragraph and everything above.)Copyright (c) 2008 by Scott Noelle

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Melliferous Pants said...

Your kids are lucky to have such an awesome mommy.

Blogging Mama said...

I really loved this one...made tons of sense. I agree, I needed to read it too! Perfect timing.

electric boogaloo said...

pants - well that's about the nicest and also most timely thing I could have heard. thank you.

BM (cause i like typing bm, cause i'm 10 years old) - i'm seriously so glad i have you! it's like having a companion in the giant pot, being cooked by cannibals.

LoryKC said...

Dern it. There is no pre-packaged answer to explain 9-year-old girls?!?!?

I am (mostly) kidding. It is amazing to watch them develop their own personalities, tastes, even temperaments. (Even if they clash with our own!)
Even if they truly are different people than they were an hour ago!
Thank you for this wonderful reminder!

 

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